One of the most difficult aspects of being a stay-at-home parent has to be not having time to compose oneself before starting the day. You just don’t have time. The day kind of creeps up on you when you’re sleeping, then pounces mercilessly. I’ve talked about hitting the ground running, and it’s no joke. It’s like when you’re a kid at the pool, and you know the water is cold. Do you start with your toes and ease yourself in, or do you simply jump right in and get used to it all at once? Well, the stay-at-home parents don’t get a choice. Every morning is a cold dive, whether you like it or not.
Maybe it’s just me, with my OCD and need to have things organized. But I think it makes a huge difference in someone’s day to have that moment. That brief few seconds after you shower and get ready in the morning, when you can smooth out your clothes in the mirror and think, “OK, I’m ready now.” Then you open your door and face the day. Not having that can be frustrating.
Have you ever had one of those days, when you get into work and there are already meetings you weren’t told about but are now late for? When people are already asking you questions, demanding answers and you’re thinking, “Hey, I just got here.” Being a stay-at-home parent is like that every day. We have to face each day with our little bosses yelling at us and making demands. But, “Hey, we just woke up.”
It is ironic or apropos that I was trying to write a piece this morning about the nature of time, but I can’t finish it today- because I don’t have time? And as always, I am doing five things at once- feeding the kid “breakfast” (in quotes because sometimes it’s more of a snack, psst- don’t tell mom), doing laundry, planning the rest of the week, thinking of when to get the house fixed, trying to write, and more. I know everyone works hard, everyone is busy. It would just be nice to start the morning feeling like I’m sorted out for the day. To take a shower, get dressed and feel like a normal person. But my boss won’t let me. Maybe I’ll bring that up in my next performance review.
What helps you to face the day? Or if it’s missing, what do you wish you could have in your morning routine?